Monday, July 18, 2016

New fundraiser & update

We have been working hard to get the boys home! We applied to the US to allow us to adopt children from another country and that was approved, along with our FBI fingerprints proving we have not committed any crimes here or elsewhere. We are now finishing up our dossier (large collection of documents that represents who we are) and this week we will be taking them to get their final seals of approval from the US before sending them off to be translated and sent to China. Typically from the time our dossier is logged into China it takes 3-4 months until you can travel and that is without a medical expedite being honored. We are hoping they honor our request and the doctors request for an expedite, so the boys can get home quicker and into doctors for the proper care they need.

We are so thankful that so far this whole time we have continued to have what has been needed financially. We are blessed with generous friends and family who have donated, we have cut back on many extras we felt our family no longer needed, Brock is working extra and tutoring, and we have held a few fundraising events. But, our savings account is slowly fading, we don't have enough to cover any more fees or expenses at this time. We estimate that we still need $25,000-30,000 to complete the adoption. We need the money there when it needs to be sent out. While we really do hate asking for financial help, we truly need it. Every bit of what gets donated is going to our adoption. We have a separate savings account just for the adoption money. We contribute everything we can, but alone, it is not enough. Yes we have the finances to raise two more children, but we do not have the amount needed to complete an adoption, readily available. So, we have a new fundraiser and hope you will be able to donate and/ or share.


This chart represents dollar amounts to be donated...anything from 1-100. You can choose any number(s) and then pay via PayPal. (email me, PM me on Facebook or leave a note in your PayPal donation as to what number(s) you have chosen.) Our PayPal link is on the top right side of this page.

As the numbers get "sponsored" I will update the picture with the numbers crossed out.

Once the chart is completely crossed out, we will randomly choose a winner of a $100 gift card! Winner can choose from Wal Mart, iTunes, or Amazon.

The number you choose is the amount of times your name will be entered into the drawing. Ex. donate $50-get 50 entries.

If you are in our Facebook group, you will find this same chart, please share this fundraiser on your FB page. Every bit helps! You can also share the web address to our blog so others can read about our journey!

Please continue to pray over our adoption. Pray that the finances will be there when they are needed. Pray the boys remain doing well and have no major medical issues arise before we are home. Pray for our guidance and ability to listen and obey. The Lord brought us these children and we know He will get them home. We need to continue listening to Him and following His plan.


Saturday, June 4, 2016

More updates

Thank you to everyone who came to our skate fundraiser! We had a very successful fundraiser and were able to raise the remaining amount needed to pay the next fee, for our home study report to be completed! I love how the Lord always provides, it may not be all at once, but bit by bit, it has been there as we have needed it!

Today I was able to pick up our officially completed and certified home study report! This is the first HUGE step in the adoption process. Of course there are many more steps, but that was a big one. We are so excited to be able to move on to the next step. The next HUGE piece to the adoption process is called the dossier. The dossier is basically ALL of the paperwork that has to be completed, notarized, certified and later translated and sent to China. Of course we still have some steps in between before we are ready to get that going...fingerprints, many more documents, and I think we still have one more required training ahead of us. We will get there bit by bit! We also received the medical expedite letter from the neurologist. We are hoping that this will help encourage the workers who have to review our information and process stuff for us, to do so quickly. 

It is exciting that Hudson is getting to see all the work that goes into adoption. He has said to me many times, "what took you so long to get me mom"? And, it breaks my heart. I've explained to him many times that if I could of just jumped on a plane to bring him home I would have, but there is a process and LOTS of paperwork and MANY people are involved in the adoption of each child. I think he can somewhat see that now. Hudson is excited to have two little brothers, from China like him, who have weaknesses and will likely require some leg brace(s) like he does. He told me the other day, "we are special" and I said, "yes, each of my children are special!" He laughed and said "no mom, just your China boys!" Oh yes, my China boys sure are special (and so are my bio children). I love all of my children, I am so blessed to be a mama to these children. If you would of told me 5-10 years ago I would have 4 boys and 2 girls I would of laughed! Now, I couldn't imagine my life any other way! 

So as we are moving on to the next steps, will you please continue to pray for us? Pray that the steps continue to go smoothly and quickly. Pray that the medical expedite will be honored. Pray that the money needed for each fee is there when it is needed. Pray for the boys as they wait for us. Pray for our family, as adoption can be stressful and we don't want our children to feel the stresses from us. And please pray for each of us as we prepare to change our rolls a bit....the boys will be sons and brothers, Hudson will be a big brother, the older 3 will now have 2 more little brothers, Brock and I will need lots of new found energy to keep up with two little boys! 

Thank you so much for all your love and support. Without your prayers, kind words, and financial donations, this adoption would not be possible. If you would like to make a donation to help offset some of the upcoming fees, you can use the Paypal like on the top right of this screen or mail a check to our bank at:
Charleston Federal Savings & Loan
Attn: Paul Family Adoption Savings Account
800 West Lincoln Avenue
Charleston, IL 61920


Thursday, May 5, 2016

Updates!

We have had a few families from the boys' orphanage be able to see the boys, they have all told us that they seem happy and to be doing well! We also got some new photos, videos and measurements from the orphanage. We are so happy with the progress that we can notice in the new videos compared to the ones we were first given in January. The littlest of the two (Rylen) is now wearing a brace to help with his weakness and his foot turning out when he walks. We are happy to see they are working with him! They both seem like happy 2 year old boys!

We are having a skating party on May 15th to help raise some of the needed funds to complete the adoption. We hope lots of family and friends are able to come, have a good time and learn more about our boys! It should be a good time for all! It is so hard for us to ask others for donations, so we are trying to plan a few FUNdraisers! This way everyone who joins us should have a good time while we are able to accept donations to help offset some of the fees!

Next week I will have my first phone conversation with the adoption agency, besides with the first lady who was in charge with getting us "locked in" with our boys. I'm excited as I realize it means we are getting ready to start the next step in the process! Our home study report should be ready very soon and then we will be ready to move on to the next steps.

Our agency is filing for a medical expedite to be able to get the boys home quicker so they can receive the medical care they need . We won't know for a little while if that is granted. What it will do is help take some of the wait time out of some of the steps. Please pray over this. With the boys diagnosis they could develop seizures or hydrocephalus and this could cause brain damage if it is not treated. With there being so many children in a room and only a few care givers, we fear that if the boys were to have any complications, they may go unnoticed for some time. All we want is to get them home and the medical care they need, as quickly as possible. With the medical expedite, I could travel as early as 4 months from now.

We appreciate every donation we have received, 100% of every donation goes towards the many fees associated with the adoption. We have cut cable, the newspaper, eating out as often and a few vacations we would of normally taken to continue to be able to put back money for the fees as well. We hope that with some continued cut backs, side jobs, a few fundraisers and possibly grants, that we will get the adoption completely funded in time to travel with no delay.

Can you please continue to pray for our family as we continue to work hard to get all the paper work completed correctly, get the fees paid on time, and for us and the children to be prepared to welcome two little boys into our family. Pray for the boys, for the health and safety, that the Lord begins to prepare their hearts for a family. We appreciate everyone's love and support, we have some amazing friends, family and even strangers!

                                                                              Rylen

Rowen

Sunday, March 13, 2016

Here we grow again!

It has been forever since I have updated our blog, I had intentions of updating at least every few months. But, life gets busy, and I forgot. Hopefully I will be better about it this time!

So, our news! We are in process of adopting twin boys from China! They are beautiful, and we are so excited that our family is growing again. I will copy the story from our Facebook page below for those that have not been able to follow us on there yet.

Hello! Thank you for visiting our adoption page. We are Beck and Brock Paul. We have 3 bio children (Ashton 18, Hanna 16, & Averie 8) and our youngest son was adopted from China in 2013 (Hudson 6). We have all been very blessed with Hudson. He is a smart, funny and a loving little boy! He has came such a long way since coming home in September 2013. I (Beck) always wanted to adopt, and when I first laid eyes on Hudsons picture, I fell in love and knew he was ours. I thought our family was complete, we had 2 boys and 2 girls, it was comfortable. Well, God has other plans for us and our family....
On January 9th, 2016, a fellow adoptive family had shared a photo of these beautiful twin boys, urgently needing their forever family to run to them. I felt like I did my part and shared their photo and story on Facebook. I tried not to think about them, but I couldn't get them off of my mind. I felt such a connection with these faces and they were pulling at my heart. Monday came around, Brock was at work and I was in the kitchen, doing dishes. He begins to text me and said "call the agency about the boys, see what we need to do, but NO COMMITMENT." Of course I was excited as I knew the Lord was pulling at his heart too! I quickly made contact and we had until that Friday (4 days) to decide if we would commit to these boys, apply to the agency and for pre-approval from China to adopt them and to pay the application fee and pre-approval fee, We didn't have the amount of money needed for these initial fees, so we decided to set up a Go Fund Me account. Well, the Lord provided in 24 hours!


The boys are 2.5 years old. They are in an orphanage in a beautiful providence in China. They were both born with a rare brain malformation called Schizencephaly. Basically they have a cleft in one side of their brain. They both have weakened muscles and speech delays. Schizencephaly can cause seizures and water to build up in their brain as well, so it is important to get them home as soon as we can so they can see the medical professionals and have testing to prevent further damage.

We plan to use this page to share our adoption journey. It is such a beautiful yet rough process. I called it a roller coaster ride when we were going through this with Hudson....it has a lot of ups and downs. I want to keep this page real, not just share in all the good. We plan to use this page to ask for prayer and to pray for others, to share updates on the boys and the adoption process. To share our fundraising ideas, and eventually to share about our travel to China and bringing the boys home!


Our prayer needs right now are to please keep the boys safe and healthy while they are waiting for us. Also, for the Lord to prepare them to come home and be a part of their family. This will be a huge change for these boys. They didn't have a say in being abandoned and to be raised in an orphanage and now they don't get a say in us adopting them and bringing them home. There is a lot of loss in adoption, for the children. We love them dearly and hope they will feel loved and cared for quickly. Please pray for our family here at home. Mainly pray for our youngest two children, I am sure there will be some jealousy but I pray they can work it out with us and I also pray Hudson does not have any set backs. He is doing so good and I don't want him to feel left out or replaced with his two little brothers. At this time he is very excited to have 2 little brothers, but they aren't here yet! And please pray for the finances needed to complete the adoption process. 

Adoption is very costly, there are so many people who are involved and no one works for free. From the social worker who completes the home study, the agency who completes the adoption process to the Chinese government and orphanage and many,many more steps there....everyone gets paid. It is expected that it will cost around $55,000, including the required travel, to get the boys home. We know the Lord will provide, we just need to listed and follow Him. We do not want the finances to get in the way of bringing them home as quickly as possible. We are hoping to travel in October or November to bring them home!

If you would like to follow our Facebook page, you will find it here:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/1000528550027746/

If you feel led to donate towards bringing our boys home, there are a few ways to do so:

1. Our PayPal link is the same as on this page to the right. If you use Paypal to donate towards our adoption, we will get 100% of the amount donated. 
2. We also have a Go Fund Me account set up. It is very quick and easy to donate through there. Using Go Fund Me to donate does take out a few fees, we get most of the amount donated. https://www.gofundme.com/paulfamilyadoption
3. You can also send or drop off a donation to our bank at:
First Federal Savings & Loan
Attn: Paul Family Adoption Savings Acct
800 West Lincoln Avenue
Charleston, IL 61920

                  And...here are our boys! 




Wednesday, February 26, 2014

6 months

Today marks 6 months since "Gotcha day" aka the day I got Hudson. So much has happened in these 6 months. It is still so weird to sit back and realize he is home, he is finally home. It took us almost 17 months from the time I saw this little boys photo until I got to bring him home, that's a LONG time.

Hudson is doing WONDERFULLY! We had such an easy transition, we were lucky I know. He attached and bonded wonderfully with each of us. It is like he has just always been here. I'm going to try to hit some key points for each month that he has been home.

August 25, 2013, I met our little Hudson, I know I've written about this already, but what a special day that is. He was a little shy at first, but once it was just him and I in the room, he was smiling and coming over to me. When we were in the car on the way to the hotel he was all smiles. And in the hotel when we got to Skype with family, he was funny and excited. It was an adventurous trip, one I never thought I would be taking alone, but I did. I would do it all over again as long as I got to bring this little guy home!

Gotcha Day!
Gotcha day, on the way to our hotel.


We came home on September 5th, 2013. We had family waiting on us in Chicago, we had 2 flight delays and were rerouted all the way to LA before coming home, but we finally made it.

  Left: He went straight to his daddy. Aunt Whitney brought him some cookies too!
Shown is Aunt Lexi, Hanna, Papoo, Grahmie, Aunt Whitney, and daddy holding Hudson.



Below: Grahmie and Papoo brought him a magna doodle, he was quite interested in in being opened right away.

Shown is Aunt Lexi, Grahmie, Papoo, Aunt Whiteny holding Hudson, Averie and daddy.















Our first few weeks at home were a bit rough, I was exhausted, Hudson was having a little difficulty settling into everything, it wasn't anything too bad, but he was expected to have about 2 major melt downs a day for the first two weeks. They were exhausting and stressful to all of us. But, he didn't know what else to do, this was all new and strange to him. We took him from all that he ever knew, he wasn't asked if he wanted to come here. Now, Im sure if he was asked if he was glad he came home he would defiantly say yes, but he wasn't prepared for all of this at first.  He formed a relationship with dad right away, we Skyped so much he knew who everyone was.

October-

Hudson was diagnosed with mild cerebral palsy shortly after coming home. We knew he had a weakness in his right leg before the adoption, we just didn't know why. He was fitted for a leg brace. He didn't care for the brace much at first and it proved much more difficult for him to walk with it. We decided more physical therapy would be necessary. He continued to make improvements with speech and he was even dismissed from speech therapy.

Hudson began preschool on October 16th, only 5 weeks after coming home. I was hesitant, but wanted to let him try. He loved it! I think it helped that he went with me each day to take Averie to school and pick her up, so he knew Ide always come back for him too. He continues to improve with speech, especially being in a class of children his age.

First day of school



He loved Halloween, he dressed up as Captain Hook and Averie was Tinkerbell. Hudson enjoyed going house to house saying trick or treat. Too bad it was a cold rainy evening, hopefully next year will be nicer weather.

Captain Hook & Tinkerbell

Also in October or early November he began to sleep in his own bed! He does really well there still and it really was not a struggle at all. Now, most nights he does still wake up and comes and slips in our bed. Sometimes we will redirect him back to his, but really, it will only last so long until he no longer wants to cuddle between us, so we let him...and Averie too!
Sleeping in his bed!


By November Hudson really had no communication issues, maybe even sooner. He is such a bright and happy boy. He continued to love school, he did get to start speech and physical therapy at school, he continues physical therapy weekly also at our local hospital. He is making great progress, but still has a way to go. 
November 25th, 2013 Hudson was readopted in the USA. He had mom, dad, sisters Hanna and Averie and Grahmie, Papoo and Aunt Lexi there to celebrate!
Re-adoption Day in USA

 He enjoyed all the food at Thanksgiving! He is a meat eater, kinda funny with having a mom who is a vegetarian.
Our wild Pilgrim

December came and went so fast! We had Hanna's birthday and Hudson's first Christmas home! He loved decorating the house, the Christmas tree, and all the little traditions we have. We have an Elf on the Shelf that comes to our house each year, her name is Pixie and as much as I thought he wouldn't understand the concept, he really did! He enjoyed getting up each morning and seeing what kind of mischief Pixie had gotten into. He also enjoyed his daily piece of candy from the advent calendar, counting down the days until Christmas! We watched lots of Christmas movies and tried to explain as much as we could of what Christmas is like. On Christmas morning, this little boy had some huge eyes at what all he saw. He just couldn't believe that he was getting all these gifts. We went from home to daddys parents to my parents. By the time we went to my parents, we were passing out gifts and he just sat in the middle of a huge pile looking around and looked at me and said "is all this for me? For Hudson?" I laughed, "yes buddy, its all yours!" Lets just say he is caught up for some missed Christmas'.   

Decorating
Christmas morning at home

"Is all this for me? For Hudson?!"

We brought in the new year at a hotel. He loves going to hotels and swimming. He also enjoys the science center and shopping! He still really enjoys getting new clothes! He has stayed pretty healthy, he has spiked a few fevers here and there with not much explaination. He has also tested positive for a bacteria, that he contracted from China. We are working on getting rid of this. Hudson began playing soccer at the local YMCA. He was so excited to be on a team, we even talked Averie to stay back a year and play on the same team as him. They have a great time together. He just runs and laughs while he plays. He is so excited when he gets a chance to kick the ball. He is not afraid to get in there with all the other kids at all. 

Handsome soccer player!

Celebrating The Chinese New Year

Now, it is February. He enjoyed Valentines day at both his school and Averies'. We went to a hotel for a few nights because he was scheduled for a sleep study. He did very well for the sleep study and we are waiting for the results still. Hudson continues to have the bacteria, we have tried two rounds of antibiotics and a cream and it is not helping. We are in process of figuring out what is our next step.
 
We found out that Hudson has grown 6 inches since coming home! This is awesome! He will need a new leg brace, but not only because he has grown so much, but also because he has had regrowth of a muscle they didn't think he would have. So, he will be getting a new style of brace and hopefully some cool colors! 


Valentines Day


Enjoying the hot tub with Averie


Sleep Study



Bowling with daddy



 I cannot believe that 6 months have passed by since meeting our son for the first time. We are so blessed to be led to this child of ours. He is an absolute joy! I sit and stare at him and just smile, he is so beautiful, so funny and smart. I love riding in the car with him, he likes to watch movies with the headphones on and he just gets laughing at some funny parts, he has one of those contagious laughs, you just have to laugh with him, even if you have no clue why he is laughing. Hudson is so loved by each one of us and he loves his family and friends so much! We are so lucky to have him as our son! 

February 26, 2014
August 26, 2013

Thursday, September 26, 2013

1 month

     I always wondered why adopting parents would drop off the planet once they got their child. I would be so hooked and excited for them and then nothing. Well, Im so guilty of that. I understand now how hard it is to be able to take time to blog again, you are so busy and worn out. I do have notes from while I was in China, it was so hard to blog there with an IPad, but I will post those at a later time. Now, I will reflect on our time since returning home, I met our Hudson 1 month ago today.

     We arrived in Chicago around 9pm Thursday September 5th. We were suppose arrive at 1pm, but we had some missed flights and had to detour to LA before Chicago. It was very stressful and irritating, but it was wonderful to finally get home. As we were just getting to collect baggage I saw Brock and the girls coming our way, I was so excited to see them I cried. I missed them all so very much! Quickly after seeing Brock and the girls behind them came Brock's parents, sister Whitney and her boyfriend Eric, and Lexi. Hudson was excited to see dada or baba as he called him and went right to him! He was happy to see everyone and and as we spent more time there visiting he went to and visited everyone. On the way home we stopped at Denny's and he got to show his true personality and had a good time with everyone.

     The first several days home were also very exhausting and hard. Yes, there were wonderful moments and we are so lucky that Hudson has bonded so well with us. But, he also had a lot of fits. He is 4 years old but socially he is about 18 months old. He is so full of energy and never stops moving. I wont sugar coat things, I want to be honest. But, Ill tell you, when this little guy is being sweet, he is the sweetest little thing. The first couple of nights sleep times were pretty off for him, which is expected, but that doesn't make it any easier on anyone.

     Ive heard of many families that keep their adopted child at home for a few weeks and do not go anywhere, to help with attachment and bonding. But, we did not do that. Hudson has had no problems in either area and with our busy life at home, we have not worried about it. He has attended many soccer games, had lunch with big sister at her school, went shopping, been out to eat many times, visited grandparents and some friends houses and much more. He has handled all situations so well. The first several days we would drive separately just in case he needed to go home. He has done so well. As far as siblings, he attached to Hanna right away. He thought of and still at times thinks of Averie as competition. Im sure he thinks she will be like the other children at the orphanage were, fighting for toys, food and attention. Poor Averie just wants to help him and play with him. He is slowly accepting that and is being better with her each day. Since Ashton is not home as much as he has late soccer practice and games and school all day, he is not as close to Ashton as I would expect yet. Ashton loves kids and loves Hudson.

     Hudson has been evaluated by our local pediatrician, speech department, and physical therapy. He is doing so much better than I expected! He does have a parasite, which I expected, it is common for children coming from an orphanage. He is on a medication to treat and rid of that. He also has some bad reflux, I noticed this in China, he throws up in his mouth 20-30 times a day but just chews and swallows, he is very used to this. He is on medication for this and it does seem to be improving some. He also has some pretty bad asthma. If he gets a little bit active and running around he starts hacking and wheezing. This is not yet under control, but we are starting a new treatment. Speech says he is going to do so awesome. He has already picked up so many words in English and can put together some short sentences. He also has learned a little sign language and has made up some of his own to help with communication. They have said with how good he is already doing, they think he will be fluent in English within a couple of months. And with PT, he will have a custom brace for his right leg made and he will have to wear it all of his waking hours. They hope he will tolerate it well and that they will be able to cut down the amount of support needed and eventually he will not need the brace any longer. That is the best case scenario. Worse case scenario he will need to wear it longer term or permanently. Today we were told by the pediatrician that Hudson does have mild cerebral palsy. This is not a diagnosis we knew about or really expected. But, it is not a big deal. His weakness is not going to get any worse, it will only get better as long as he is being treated. This has only affected his right leg. We know that he will be just fine.
     For those who do live close, we are having a welcome home party for Hudson and we would love you to attend. It is on Sunday October 6th, from 3pm-6pm at Salisbury Church in Charleston (2350 Madison Avenue)
     While times may be rough and we may get totally worn out, we love this little guy so much and he loves us. After a few nights home, he laid in bed between Brock and I to go to sleep. He looked at me and gave me a big smile and then looked over to Brock and gave a big smile. He is so happy to have both of us in his life. He has added so much excitement, love and silliness to our family. Thank you so much to everyone who has supported us in bring home Hudson. We could not have done it without you!

     

Monday, August 26, 2013

Gotcha continued

Please do forgive me of spelling and grammar, it's hard to blog with my IPad.

Anyways, he handed me his cup, saying mama and something else. I could tell he didnt like the cup. So I got a bottle and he was happy. So he laid next to me in bed, I cuddled him, after a few minutes he said mama and handed me the bottle. I thought he was done, but then he grabbed my hand and wanted me to hold the bottle for him. How sweet! So I did. He began to get very sleepy and so did I. I just dozed a little and woke to whimpering. He didnt have tears, but was clearly holding them in, he began sobbing. I rubbed on him and gave him kisses. I gave him a little time, then tried to hold him. He curled up in my lap and sobbed, he let me rock him and kiss him. I too cried, not letting him see. It was so sad. I know he is confused and will miss his orphanage. But I am so happy he lets me cuddle him and love on him. He worked himself into quite a sweat. But, he fell asleep cuddling me. Oh, how I love this child. I held him awhile longer and then laid him next to me in bed.

The girls tried to FaceTime me at 9pm and I felt bad that I couldn't really. The noise from they calling in woke Hudson and no way did I want him awake then. So I went into the bathroom. And talked a few min with them and explained he had a little rough patch and I didn't want him to wake. I let them go, I hope they all had a good day at school. I can't wait to Skype with them in a few hours! I love and miss my family so much, I can't wait to get home with Hudson.

Today I go and officially adopt Hudson! Tomorrow we go to the orphanage for a final visit. Thursday we go on a tour and Friday we hop a plane to Guangzhou. This trip is going much slower than I anticipated, but maybe once in GZ and there is other families around, it will go quicker.

I'll try to add photos soon. Lots of love to everyone.